I’ve always been fascinated by people.
Not by what they say.
By what happens underneath.
From a young age, I noticed patterns. In myself, in others. Moments when something felt right, and moments when it clearly didn’t. Even when everything on the outside looked fine. I became curious about that gap. Between what we think we feel, and what we actually feel.
I read about it. Studied it. Had long conversations about behavior, psychology, the way our bodies hold what our minds can’t process.
But knowing something and living it are two different things.
Because even with all that curiosity, I spent years living mostly in my head. Life got full. Full of movement, expectations, things to do and figure out. And I kept going. I thought my way through decisions instead of feeling them. Stayed occupied instead of present.
Slowly, without really noticing, I lost touch with something I couldn’t name.
I didn’t know what I wanted anymore.
Not really.
I knew what made sense. What looked right from the outside. But what I actually felt? That had gone quiet.
The way back didn’t start with a big realization.
It started with one small question I finally let myself ask:
What does this actually feel like for me?
Not what should I do. Not what makes sense.
Just: what do I feel?
That question changed everything. Not overnight. But for real.
I stopped trying to think my way to clarity and started listening to what my body was already telling me. The tension that showed up before I could explain why. The lightness when something was right. The heaviness when it wasn’t.
My mind didn’t disappear.
It became a tool.
My body became the guide.
That shift led me to somatic embodiment coaching, where I trained and became certified as an ICF Somatic Embodiment Coach. A way of working that starts not in the mind, but in the body. And the first thing I learned in my training wasn’t a method or a technique.
It was to come back to myself.
To recognize my own patterns. My own signals. The places where I had stopped listening long before I noticed I was lost. Because before you can guide anyone else through that, you have to know your own terrain.
That’s why I do this work.
I know what it’s like to feel something is off and not be able to name it. To lose your dreams so quietly you almost don’t notice they’re gone. To make choices that look right but don’t feel like yours.
And I know what it feels like to come back to yourself.
Not by pushing harder or figuring it out.
But by slowing down enough to feel what’s already there.
That’s what I help people do.
People who are tired of living in their heads. Who feel disconnected from what they actually want. Who sense something is missing, even when they can’t explain it yet.
You haven’t lost yourself.
You’ve just stopped listening.
And that’s exactly where we begin.
NILÆNA Embodiment | Nicole
Internationally Accredited & Certified Body-Oriented Coach
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